Parents: Take the SAT Challenge!


I keep a box of tissues on the table where I tutor because, as an SAT tutor and college application consultant, I listen to high school juniors and seniors who are so overwhelmed by college pressure that they begin to cry. Not just girls. Not just Ivy League aspirants.

High school students are always convinced their parents don't understand them. This time the students are right. Parents don't understand because the college admission process is so much more competitive than it was when most parents applied to college.

These are the ten things I wish I could tell parents:

1. I am convinced that parents have to walk a mile in the student's moccasins to gain some appreciation for the stress the students are under and to reverse the tension at home. If parents will take an SAT practice test they will feel some of the same anxiety, cringe at their results, and discover that the test is hard. Instead of piling 25 pounds of SAT study books on the desk, parents can commiserate with students over missed problems. Parents and students can become allies rather than adversaries as they face the college admission process.

2. Hire SAT prep tutors who focus on the applicable academic material rather than just the tricks. Increasing a student's academic preparation for the test in addition to teaching the tricks increases their confidence on the test and in the classroom; teaching only the tricks makes students more insecure because they are relying on tricks rather than on actual knowledge.

3. Have the tutors keep the parents informed about each session so that the parent tracks progress with the tutor rather than pestering the student for information.

4. Have the student try the ACT. All colleges accept it and some students do better on it than on the SAT.

5. Make learning fun. For example, have the students memorize vocabulary using the book Vocabulary Cartoons by Sam Burchers, et al. Also, have the student do the crossword and other word puzzles in SAT Vocabulary Express, the fun book of word puzzles that will increase SAT scores. I wrote it with Michael Ashley, a nationally known puzzler, so that our students would learn to play with words, an important skill for the new SAT.

6. Emphasize getting good grades rather than good SAT scores. Bs in honors classes are better than As in regular classes.

7. Hire an independent college counselor who will work with the family to create a realistic college list, brainstorm for essay topics, establish deadlines for the student, and check all college applications. High school college counselors are overworked and do not have the time to walk families through the process.

8. Realize that the schools parents attended may not be within reach for their child. The number of high school students planning to attend college has increased dramatically; the student may be well qualified for a particular college and may still not get in.

9. Look for colleges where the student will thrive academically and socially. Choosing colleges based on their name recognition and prestige value is a formula that will increase stress, not decrease it. Everyone else wants to go to those schools, too, making them even harder to get into; they are not necessarily the best place for the student. Loren Pope's book, Colleges That Change Lives, is a good place to start.

10. Support your child through a difficult process. Leave the prodding, nagging, and yelling to the tutors and college counselor. The independent college counselor will tell the student to work harder so the parent doesn't have to. Why ruin the student's last year at home?

Parents can make decisions so that senior year is not be so fraught with anxiety that family members begin to avoid each other. And, I hate it when my students cry.

Jacqueline Byrne
Author, SAT Vocabulary Express (McGraw Hill, 10/04)
Partner, Ivy Educational Services, Scotch Plains, New Jersey
http://www.ivyeducationalservices.com







Related News



Pune University marks student ‘absent’ for all papers... when he’s ... - Expressindia.com

Pune University marks student ‘absent’ for all papers... when he’s ...
Expressindia.com, India -4 hours ago
Vinit then repeatedly visited the college and examination branch of the University of Pune, but in vain. “I visited the college and the university several ...
Average of 40 complaints per collegeExpressindia.com
all 2 news articles

Report: Schiano can leave without penalty if project not finished ... - ESPN

The Star-Ledger - NJ.com

Report: Schiano can leave without penalty if project not finished ...
ESPN -12 hours ago
Schiano, who helped build Rutgers into an emerging college football power, has reportedly been sought by a number of high-profile programs in the past few ...
Royalty at RutgersDailyrecord.com
Secret deal could let Schiano leave RutgersFOXSports.com
Rutgers' quarterback sneakThe Star-Ledger - NJ.com
Asbury Park Press - NJ.com
all 55 news articles

Carroll wins federal grant to develop program - Bizjournals.com

Carroll wins federal grant to develop program
Bizjournals.com, NC -3 hours ago
Carroll University in Waukesha, formerly known as Carroll College, has received a $595000 federal grant to support the development of a new physician ...

More college cafeterias dump food trays - USA Today

More college cafeterias dump food trays
USA Today -19 hours ago
In a bid to discourage food waste and decrease energy use at all-you-can-eat campus cafeterias, dozens of college dining services — from New York University...

Hispanic Chamber Scholarships Help Students - Woodlands Online, LLC

Woodlands Online, LLC

Hispanic Chamber Scholarships Help Students
Woodlands Online, LLC, TX -7 hours ago
... Montgomery, North Harris, and Tomball, six centers and Lone Star College-University Center. With 49250 students, it is the largest college system in the ...

SC college hires Pfeiffer University VP - Bizjournals.com

SC college hires Pfeiffer University VP
Bizjournals.com, NC -6 hours ago
In his new role, he will head the SC college, which serves nearly 1900 students through 70-plus degree, diploma and certificate programs at three campuses. ...

University choice: The cost of getting it wrong - Independent

University choice: The cost of getting it wrong
Independent, UK -2 hours ago
At St Charles Catholic sixth-form college in Ladbroke Grove, west London, where 82 per cent of pupils are from ethnic minorities, a group of AS-level ...
Universities: Worcester's source of prideIndependent
all 2 news articles

National scholars petition to reopen Antioch - Bizjournals.com

National scholars petition to reopen Antioch
Bizjournals.com, NC -7 hours ago
The signatures urge Antioch University administration to transfer all assets of the 156-year-old, Yellow Springs school to the Antioch College Alumni ...

Scrapbook sheds light on post-fire Elon - The Pendulum

Scrapbook sheds light on post-fire Elon
The Pendulum, NC -3 hours ago
“Typically, the presidents’ papers are the crown jewel of any college/university archive,” Nash said. Other items include acorns given out at convocation, ...

The Business-Higher Education Forum (BHEF) to Build National ... - FOXBusiness

The Business-Higher Education Forum (BHEF) to Build National ...
FOXBusiness -6 hours ago
... a national organization of Fortune 500 CEOs, prominent college and university presidents, and foundation leaders working to advance innovative solutions ...
9 Reasons Your Salary Isn't HigherU.S. News & World Report
all 9 news articles